{"id":378,"date":"2020-07-28T10:42:08","date_gmt":"2020-07-28T15:42:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/?page_id=378"},"modified":"2023-11-20T14:54:54","modified_gmt":"2023-11-20T20:54:54","slug":"30-ways-to-boost-resilience","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/30-ways-to-boost-resilience\/","title":{"rendered":"30 Ways to Boost Resilience"},"content":{"rendered":"
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30 Ways to Boost Resilience Throughout The Life Cycle<\/span><\/h2>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629643618000{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Definition:<\/strong> Resilience is the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.<\/span>
\nFrom The<\/em><\/span>\u00a0Merriam-Webster Dictionary<\/span><\/em>[\/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”2\/3″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1682360721110{margin-bottom: 5px !important;}”]\n

What Is Resilience And Why Is Resilience Important?<\/h2>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629643655947{margin-bottom: 5px !important;}”]Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. It is a skill that originates from believing in yourself and is used to:
\n\u2022<\/strong> Cope with adversity
\n\u2022<\/strong> Adapt to change
\n\u2022<\/strong> Accept uncertainly
\n\u2022<\/strong> Overcome challenges[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/3″][vc_single_image image=”382″ img_size=”350×150″ alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1682355579260{margin-bottom: 0px !important;padding-top: 65px !important;}”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_column_text]There are three different types of resilience:
\n\u2022 Personal or emotional resilience: <\/strong>How an individual rebounds from a stressful situation; for example, the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or financial struggles.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Physical resilience: <\/strong>How your body recovers from trauma; for example, a broken leg, cancer or a heart attack.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Community resilience: <\/strong>How a community recovers after a stressful event; for example, a hurricane, a pandemic or an act of terrorism like 911.<\/p>\n

In relation to resilience, stressful events or adversities can be categorized in three ways:
\n\u2022 Stressful events with solutions: <\/strong>For example, not getting that promotion at work may result in you trying harder.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Stressful events that will get better over time with little or no intervention: <\/strong>For example, waiting to be able to move into a new home.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Stressful events that very little can be done about: <\/strong>For example, a hurricane or other natural disaster.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629643952245{margin-top: -10px !important;}”]Resilience can be difficult to understand because it is so multi-faceted. It can be:
\n\u2022<\/strong> A trait we are born with
\n\u2022<\/strong> A skill that can be learned either in childhood or in adulthood[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1607105527746{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Resilience in Children<\/h3>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629644083500{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Parents can raise their children in one of three ways: a philosophy Kathryn Maietta MSW, LCSW calls \u201cFlower Children\u201d. Children can be raised as:[\/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”2\/3″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600013844548{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Garden Flowers<\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600016014076{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Garden flowers are nurtured, weeded, fertilized. They are encouraged to flourish and are well taken care of. Children who are raised as garden flowers are taught life skills (for example, resilience) and are provided with opportunities for positive growth. Their resilience is usually high.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/3″][vc_single_image image=”389″ img_size=”120×120″ alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1682357542003{margin-top: 30px !important;margin-bottom: -10px !important;}”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner css=”.vc_custom_1600016765028{margin-top: -30px !important;}”][vc_column_inner width=”2\/3″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600013869038{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Wild Flowers<\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629644630423{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Wild flowers come from seeds that have been scattered to the wind. If a wild flower is to grow it has to put down deeper roots than other plants and grow taller\u00a0 than other plants to reach the sun. Children raised as wild flowers either find resilience through trial and error, will need to learn resilience in adulthood or emotionally perish.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/3″][vc_single_image image=”390″ img_size=”130×110″ alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1682358116647{margin-top: 40px !important;}”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner css=”.vc_custom_1600015477937{margin-top: -40px !important;}”][vc_column_inner width=”2\/3″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600013887728{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Potted Plants<\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600014980715{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Potted plants only have the sunlight, water and nutrients that are provided. Children who are raised as potted plants have a hard time being self-reliant because all decisions are made for them. Their resilience is low based on not having been taught life skills (resilience).[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/3″][vc_single_image image=”391″ img_size=”70×95″ alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1682358638193{margin-top: 30px !important;}”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_column_text]Learning how to ride a bike is a demonstration in resilience. A child decides s\/he wants to ride a bike. A friend\u2019s bike is borrowed, pedaled for a ways, and the child falls off. It doesn\u2019t seem to faze the child and without prompting the child gets right back on the bike and tries again. This is resilience. For other children this process is a struggle and learning to ride a bike is a long, arduous and painful process.[\/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”392″ img_size=”275×200″ alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1682359709067{margin-top: -40px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1629644853047{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]If you are someone who has resilience, chances are likely you will role model resilience to your children. If you are a teacher, a coach, a Girl Scout leader, a child therapist or day care worker who is responsible for someone else\u2019s children, you can help the children in your care learn resilience.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600017141347{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Resilience skills to teach children include:
\n1. <\/strong>Acceptance<\/strong>
\nTeach a child change is inevitable, and to accept the differences in people.<\/p>\n

2. Take a B<\/strong>reak from Worrying<\/strong>
\nTeach a child that during stressful times it is okay to relax and not have to feel stressed about problems.<\/p>\n

3. <\/strong>Empathy<\/strong>
\nTeach a child to \u201csee the other side\u201d, to look at how someone else may view a situation, or how life might be different for others.<\/p>\n

4. <\/strong>\u201cForest for the Trees\u201d<\/strong>
\nTeach a child to look at problems from both the big picture (the forest) and the small picture of details (the trees).<\/p>\n

5. <\/strong>Help Others<\/strong>
\nTeach a child to see the world is a bigger place than just their neighborhood and to see the importance of helping others.<\/p>\n

6. <\/strong>Manageable Accomplishments <\/strong>
\nTeach a child how to set big goals and then how to break the goal down into more manageable steps that can be more easily accomplished.<\/p>\n

7. <\/strong>Past Resilience<\/strong>
\nTeach a child to remember how they have made it through stressful times in the past, and that the child can be successful again.<\/p>\n

8. <\/strong>Routine<\/strong>
\nTeach a child how to develop a routine for themselves. It will help the child feel like s\/he has control in life.<\/p>\n

9. <\/strong>Self-Care<\/strong>
\nRole model and teach taking care of your body as an important part of resilience, specifically eating good food, being active, getting enough sleep, having fun!<\/p>\n

10. <\/strong>Support Network<\/strong>
\nEncourage a child to make connections with other children. A social network is vital for support during a time of stress.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1607105561347{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Resilience in Adulthood<\/h3>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600014493734{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Can you learn resilience in adulthood when you didn\u2019t learn it as a child? Yes! Some of the same ways we can teach our children resilience are the same ways we can learn resilience as an adult. It is never too late to learn how to be resilient.[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600017168291{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]1. Balanced Living<\/strong>
\nTake care of your mind, body, and spirit (get adequate sleep, exercise, set limits for using technology, good nutrition, hydration).<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0Bounce Back<\/strong>
\nPick yourself up, as many times as it takes. If it helps, visualize yourself as a rubber ball!<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0Celebrations<\/strong>
\nGive yourself permission to feel good about accomplishments. Reward even the small wins.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0Destiny<\/strong>
\nCreate your own destiny. Set goals. Don\u2019t let others define how you will live your life.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0Flexibility<\/strong>
\nThis is the ability to create a variety of options. When plans change, you can \u201cgo with the flow\u201d.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0Mental Toughness<\/strong>
\nMaster your emotions before they master you! See yourself as a fighter, as someone who will succeed.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0Optimism <\/strong>
\nThis is the ability when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade. You see setbacks as opportunities.<\/p>\n

8.\u00a0Paradigm Shift<\/strong>
\nThis is looking at situations differently. Don’t try to solve problems with the same thinking that created them.<\/p>\n

9.\u00a0Perseverance<\/strong>
\nKeep moving forward despite setbacks, have a clear sense of priorities, and know your goals.<\/p>\n

10. Support Systems<\/strong>
\nBuild relationships with others so you can offer and receive support during stressful times.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600013939725{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Resilience in Aging<\/h3>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1600014306725{margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”]Successful aging has typically been defined as freedom from chronic disease and disability as well as high physical and mental functioning. While resilience is important at any age, resilience in aging is vital. If resilience hasn\u2019t been attained by our 65th year, it is never too late to learn![\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]1.\u00a0Asking for help<\/strong>
\nAsk for help and graciously accept it when it\u2019s offered. No one can \u201cdo it alone\u201d, especially in aging.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0Embrace the \u201cNew Normal\u201d<\/strong>
\nHave a positive attitude about the aging process. It is about living life to its fullest while accepting the limits of a new normal.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0Faith in Yourself<\/strong>
\nHave a belief in your ability to successfully handle whatever life brings.<\/p>\n

4. Focus on What You Can Control<\/strong>
\nFocus on what can be controlled as opposed to what cannot be controlled.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0Hobbies \/ Cognitive Promoting Exercises<\/strong>
\nContinue<\/strong> familiar mental exercises such as putting together puzzles or playing a musical instrument, activities with immediate success.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0Hope<\/strong>
\nAccept the \u201cnew normal\u201d as well setting goals for the future (a bucket list). Consider the various ways of reaching those goals.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0Keep Learning<\/strong>
\nKeep active mentally. Be a life-long learner rich in experiences. Learn a foreign language. Have new experiences. Take a road trip. Challenge yourself.<\/p>\n

8.\u00a0Meaning and Purpose in Life<\/strong>
\nFind success in the new normal of being who you are as opposed to a role you played earlier in life (employee, parent, etc.).<\/p>\n

9.\u00a0Physically Active<\/strong>
\nKeep active physically. Revel in what you are able to physically continue to do as opposed to what you can no longer accomplish.<\/p>\n

10. Socially Active<\/strong>
\nKeep socially active. Maintain the social connections you already have. Cultivate new connections. Take time to laugh. Enjoy the life you deserve.[\/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1607105581885{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]\n

Quotes on Resilience<\/h3>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Know that you are not alone in life, and that in stressful times others have experienced tough times, too. Perhaps these quotes about resilience will inspire you in your time of stress.<\/p>\n

\u201cResilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.\u201d
\nElizabeth Edwards (1949-2010)<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cDo not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.\u201d
\nNelson Mandela (1918-2013)<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cThat which does not kill us makes us stronger.\u201d
\nFriedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900)<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.\u201d
\nAlbert Einstein (1879\u20131955)<\/em><\/p>\n

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