{"id":2694,"date":"2022-02-01T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-01T14:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/?p=2694"},"modified":"2023-11-07T10:47:48","modified_gmt":"2023-11-07T16:47:48","slug":"who-are-the-aggressive-communicators-in-your-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/who-are-the-aggressive-communicators-in-your-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Are the Aggressive Communicators in Your Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
\"Aggressive
Aggressive Communicators are like prickly thorns. They only want to protect themselves and will hurt anyone coming too close.\u201d <\/em><\/sup>
Photo by David Harrington<\/em> <\/sup> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What is an aggressive communicator?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Aggressive communicators tend to take their point of view to an extreme. People who rely on this communication style in the workplace, at home or among friends tend to dominate any conversation. They issue commands and ask questions rudely while failing to listen to others. For the aggressive communicator it is always about \u201cme, me, me.\u201d In positions of authority, aggressive communicators are bosses, not leaders who inspire confidence.
Soulsalt.com – <\/strong>The 4 Communication Styles: How Behavioral Traits Affect Communication<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

An aggressive communicator is an individual who expresses his\/her feelings and opinions in a way that violates the rights of others. Thus, aggressive communicators are frequently verbally, emotionally and\/or physically abusive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People who often use this aggressive communication style are people who demand to be \u201cin charge\u201d, even if they don\u2019t have the skills and\/or knowledge to do so. Instead of listening to others, they give commands and demand that others comply with what they are saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do aggressive communicators interact with others?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Using an aggressive style of communication is not a good way to communicate with anyone! The goal of being aggressive is to intimidate, which defeats the purpose of a conversation, where ideas are meant to be shared and listened to!! g2.com – 4 Types of Communication Styles (+Which One Is the Most Effective)<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aggressive communicators openly express their opinions without hesitation, often in a loud and controlling voice. They tend to be direct, but unclear at the same time! This makes it confusing for the listener. Aggressive communicators may say they are being honest, but it is usually in a blunt, harsh manner. In actuality, they are viewed as not credible, irrational, hostile, rude and uncooperative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aggressive communicators rely heavily on volume and force for their communications. Their primary focus is to dominate or control the conversation with tactics like shaming and attacking. Frontapp.com – The 4 communication styles and how they impact customer communication<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aggressive communicators will often try to dominate others, use humiliation to control others, be very impulsive and have a low frustration tolerance. They are not good listeners, and they will frequently start sentences with \u201cyou\u201d statements vs. \u201cI\u201d. For example, \u201cYou are not listening to me!\u201d or \u201cYou don\u2019t understand!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is the behavior of an aggressive communicator?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You will be able to identify aggressive communicators by the tone of their voice. You will see it in their facial expressions and their body language. You may even feel the energy in the room change.
<\/strong>Alvernia University – 4 Types of Communication Styles<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When speaking aggressively, people may make intense eye contact, point fingers, and physically stand their ground. They tend to talk over other people and interrupt frequently. They are controlling and\/or demanding while criticizing, intimidating or threatening. Aggressive communicators often issue commands and fail to listen to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because aggressive communicators are selfish and demanding, they tend to have less successful relationships than people who are assertive. This is especially true when both people in a relationship are aggressive!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples of aggressive statements<\/strong>
\u2022<\/strong> \u201cIt\u2019s my way or the highway.\u201d
\u2022<\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m right, and you\u2019re wrong.\u201d
\u2022<\/strong> \u201cBecause I said so.\u201d
\u2022<\/strong> \u201cI always get what I want.\u201d
\u2022<\/strong> “I don\u2019t care what you think.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two examples of aggressiveness in current events<\/strong>
Sometimes it is easier to understand a communication style by seeing the behavior in practice. It is fairly easy to pick out who the aggressive communicator is. It will be the person whom you will notice as being:
\u2022<\/strong> The center of attention
\u2022<\/strong> The loudest person
\u2022<\/strong> The person who is glaring or finger pointing
\u2022<\/strong> The ranting and raving individual
\u2022<\/strong> The person who everyone has their cell phone camera pointed toward<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Disclaimer: Of course, it is difficult to really know anyone you only read or hear about on the 24 hour news cycle blast. Everyone has a back story and everyone has a \u201creason\u201d for their aggressive behavior. However, there are some examples from the news that typify aggressive behavior. The people who are examples in this blog may be routinely decent human beings who made poor choices. Their inclusion was based on their behavior during a snap shot in time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cKaren\u201d<\/span>
There is a derogatory term that has been in the news lately that you may have heard of, it is calling a woman a \u201cKaren\u201d. Dictionary.com – \u201cKaren\u201d vs. \u201cBecky\u201d vs. \u201cStacy\u201d: How Different Are These Slang Terms?<\/em><\/a>
\u201cKaren\u201d is a pejorative term for a white woman who is perceived as feeling, behaving and\/or acting entitled. A person who is identified as a \u201cKaren\u201d is demanding with a sense of righteousness. The term \u201cKaren\u201d usually has some racial undertones. Examples include:
\u2022<\/strong> The \u201cCentral Park (Birdwatching) Karen\u201d Bariweiss.substack.com – The Real Story of \u201cThe Central Park Karen\u201d<\/em><\/a>
\u2022<\/strong> \u201cSoho Karen\u201d New York Post – \u2018Soho Karen\u2019 Miya Ponsetto wishes she \u2018apologized differently\u2019 to Keyon Harrold Jr<\/em>.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Karen is someone who wants what she wants, when she wants it. She is not interested in a dialog, only in what she wants. This exemplifies being an aggressive communicator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Passengers on planes<\/span>
According to the FAA in 2021 there were 5,981 reports of unruly (aggressive) passengers. <\/strong>
faa.gov – Unruly Passengers<\/em><\/a>.<\/strong> Seventy-three percent (4,290 reports) of the incidents involved airline passengers not wanting to wear facemask. For example, a $24,000 fine was levied against a passenger on an American Airlines flight from Tampa to Miami on January 21, 2021. The passenger allegedly refused to wear a facemask while boarding and was disruptive when the aircraft remained at the gate because of a \u201cminor technical issue.\u201d

USA Today – These ‘unruly’ passengers spit, punched and kicked at airline crew members. Now, they face hefty fines.<\/em> <\/a>

Businessinsider.com – A Harvard psychologist explains the rise in passengers getting violent on airplanes and customers abusing retail workers: People have reached ‘a boiling point’<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one is required to be a passenger in an airplane. At the current moment in time, mask mandates are a requirement to fly. Don\u2019t want to wear a face mask? Don\u2019t fly. People who flaunt not wearing a facemask are demonstrating they are being aggressive communicators. They care about themselves, and no one else. And it is not just the health aspect, but the amount of time flight attendants are forced to spend on unruly passengers, and how many flights are delayed due to police removal of these aggressive communicators.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Managing an aggressive communicator<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

There are many skills and techniques for managing or handling an aggressive person. You can meet and match their aggression or you can totally shut down. Neither of these techniques is recommended. There are at least six more techniques that may be of benefit, check out these options in my blogs \u201cLearn How to Handle Destructive Criticism\u201d <\/a><\/em>
and \u201c8 Responses to People Who Criticize Your Vaccine Status\u201d<\/a><\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take-away point<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People who are aggressive communicators speak loudly and use intimidation to get what they want. They care only about themselves! You don\u2019t have to be their victim, nor do you need to behave like them. You always have choices and skills to use when confronted by an aggressive communicator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quote about aggression<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAggression unopposed becomes a contagious disease.\u201d
Jimmy Carter (1924- ) azquotes.com<\/a> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With warmest regards,
\"Kathryn-End<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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