{"id":3618,"date":"2023-04-11T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-04-11T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/?p=3618"},"modified":"2023-11-02T11:47:51","modified_gmt":"2023-11-02T16:47:51","slug":"resilience-is-a-learned-skill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/resilience-is-a-learned-skill\/","title":{"rendered":"Resilience Is A Learned Skill"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The tree adapting and growing out of rock demonstrates resilience<\/em>.<\/sup><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. It is a skill that originates from believing in yourself and is used to cope with adversity, adapt to change, accept uncertainty and overcome challenges.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are not born with resilience. It is a skill that is learned through observing others and through thriving during stressful times or situations. While most people learn resilience in childhood, it is possible to learn resilience in adulthood or even in your senior or more mature years!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is never too late to learn resilience. It is the one skill that can help you succeed in life when the going gets tough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Types of Resilience<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you think about resilience, you may think about examples of personal resilience. For example, someone is laid off from their job and then they find a higher paying job with better benefits. Or someone who goes through a divorce and then finds the love of their life who treats them with respect and dignity. These are examples of emotional resilience. Someone faces a difficult situation and they have the inner fortitude, resilience, to make \u201clemonade when they were given lemons.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, another type of resilience is physical resilience. For example, you have a cold or the flu and you recover. You have a broken leg, have surgery and recover. You are diagnosed with cancer, receive treatment, and receive a clean bill of health. These are all examples of your body demonstrating resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And finally, a community can have resilience. Community resilience is when a community pulls together after a devastating event. For example, after the Boston Marathon bombing, signs went up everywhere that said, \u201cBoston Strong\u201d. Or after a hurricane, tornado or wildfire a community pulls together to support each other and to rebuild.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resilience in Children<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Resilience is something that children usually learn in childhood. Children will watch their parents navigate stressful situations and observe their resilience, their ability to bounce back after adversity, or they observe their parents\u2019 lack of resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is ironic is that adults who may not have resilience can actually teach the skills to their children! In teaching resilience to their children, adults may actually learn it for themselves as well!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a parent, or someone who is in a position to role model resilience, there are simple ways you can help children learn resilience:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Acceptance of Change<\/strong>
    Teach a child that change is inevitable. Teach them that nothing stays the same, including people, places and situations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Take a Break from Worrying<\/strong>
    Teach a child that during stressful times it is okay to take a step back, to relax and not have to feel stressed about whatever is going on.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Past Resilience<\/strong>
    Teach a child to remember how they have made it through stressful times in the past. Remind the child s\/he will be successful again.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Routine<\/strong>
    Teach a child how to develop a routine for themselves. It will help the child feel like s\/he has control of their life.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Support Network<\/strong>
    Teach a child how to make connections with other children. A social network is vital for support during a time of stress.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Resilience in Adulthood<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    While most people learn resilience as children, it is something that adults can learn, too. You can find others to be mentors for you, people who can role model resilience as an adult. Or, you can teach yourself how to have resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    In some of the same ways you demonstrate resilience to children, you can teach it to yourself, too. It is never too late to learn:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Balanced Living<\/strong>
      Take care of your mind, body, and spirit (get adequate sleep, exercise, set limits for using technology, good nutrition, hydration).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Bounce Back<\/strong>
      Pick yourself up, as many times as it takes. If it helps, visualize yourself as a rubber ball bouncing back from adversity!<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. Mental Toughness
      <\/strong>Master your emotions before they master you! See yourself as a fighter, as someone who can and will succeed. Focus on your successes.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    4. Paradigm Shift<\/strong>
      This is the ability to look at situations differently. You cannot solve problems with the same thinking that created them. See my article on The Paradigm Shift<\/a> <\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    5. Perseverance<\/strong>
      Keep moving forward despite setbacks, have a clear sense of priorities, and know your goals. Don\u2019t let a failure stop you or slow you down.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Resilience in Aging<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      Successful aging has typically been defined as freedom from chronic disease and disability as well as maintaining high physical and mental functioning. While resilience is important at any age, resilience in aging is vital. It is never too late to learn!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      1. Ask for help<\/strong>
        Ask for help and graciously accept it when it\u2019s offered. No one can \u201cdo it alone\u201d, especially in aging.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      2. Embrace the \u201cNew Normal\u201d<\/strong>
        Have a positive attitude about the aging process. It is about living life to its fullest while accepting the limits of a new normal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      3. Faith in Yourself<\/strong>
        You have lived a longer life, that doesn\u2019t \u201cjust happen\u201d. Have a belief in yourself and your ability to successfully handle whatever life brings.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      4. Focus on What You Can Control<\/strong>
        Focus on what can be controlled as opposed to what cannot be controlled. You can\u2019t control the flow of traffic, but you can control the amount of dirty dishes in the sink!<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      5. Physically and Emotionally Active<\/strong>
        Keep active physically and emotionally. Revel in what you are physically or emotionally able to do as opposed to what you can no longer accomplish.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        Take-away Points<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

        To be able to bounce back from the inevitable adversities in life, you must have resilience. You are not born with resilience, but it can be learned at any stage in life. Resilience is believing in yourself and your ability to manage any situation, no matter how difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        For more tips on how to increase your resilience, check out my article on 30 Ways To Boost Resilience<\/a><\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

        With warmest regards,
        \"Kathryn-End<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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