{"id":3896,"date":"2023-08-29T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-08-29T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/?p=3896"},"modified":"2023-11-07T09:58:24","modified_gmt":"2023-11-07T15:58:24","slug":"5-important-relationship-stages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/5-important-relationship-stages\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Important Relationship Stages, What Are They?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"466\" height=\"628\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/winding-stairs.jpg?resize=466%2C628&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"The spiral staircase to relationship stages.\" class=\"wp-image-3906\" style=\"width:350px;height:471px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/winding-stairs.jpg?w=466&amp;ssl=1 466w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/winding-stairs.jpg?resize=223%2C300&amp;ssl=1 223w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 466px) 100vw, 466px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><sup><em>Relationships are like climbing a spiral staircase to the next level.<\/em><\/sup><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Every relationship lives in stages. Some relationships remain in Stage One for the duration of the participants\u2019 lives, \u201cTill death do us part\u201d. These are the people who are happy and content in their relationship. They have no interest in exploring other relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Sadly, other people may have relationships that go through additional stages. Some may choose to stay together, \u201cfor the sake of the children\u201d. Some may choose to end their relationship altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">During Relationship Stages Two, Three and Four, there is still the opportunity of \u201cworking things out\u201d and returning to Stage One, contentment. The effort and energy it will take to return to Stage One will increase with each stage. For example, if you are in Stage Two, with some effort, energy and commitment, you can turn around a declining relationship and return to Stage One, contentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">If you wait until Stage Four to put energy, effort and commitment into the relationship it will feel like a Herculean task to return to Stage One. It can be done. But it will be that much harder. Why wait so long?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Relationship Stages<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">The following are the five relationship stages. What stage is your relationship in?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Stage One: Contentment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">There is a period in every relationship when things are going well. You are happy in your relationship and you are not romantically interested in anyone else. You are in a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">There are couples who never leave this stage. They are content in their relationship. They realize there are ups and downs. But they are ready, willing and able to put effort, energy and commitment into their relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"m0\">You may hear the following from couples who are in Stage One:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#f7fdfd\">\n<li class=\"\">\u201cMy relationship makes me happy.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cThere is not much wrong with my relationship.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cAll relationships have their ups and downs.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI have no interest in getting my needs met with anyone else.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Stage Two: Doubts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">If you are in Stage Two, you are starting to have some doubts about the relationship. Perhaps the relationship isn\u2019t exactly what you thought it would be. You may feel \u201cthe thrill is gone.\u201d The routine of being in a relationship has replaced the lust and excitement of a new relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">If you are at this stage, with some effort, energy, commitment and dedication there is still time to salvage the relationship. Boredom is not necessarily a reason to end the relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"m0\">You may hear the following from couples who are in Stage Two:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#f7fdfd\">\n<li class=\"\">\u201cThis relationship isn\u2019t really working out.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cSometimes this relationship just doesn\u2019t do it for me.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI wonder if this relationship is still worth it.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI am bored. There is no excitement in this relationship.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Stage Three: Withdrawal<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">At Stage Three if there hasn\u2019t been any kind of intervention at Stage Two, you may start to emotionally withdraw from the relationship. You may even have started developing an escape plan! You may be looking for companionship elsewhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">It is possible to salvage a relationship at this stage and return to Stage One. However, it will require significant motivation and an attitude adjustment. It will require a great deal of effort and a significant change in behavior. To turn the course of the relationship, counseling may be involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">This is an especially problematic stage because frequently it is \u201cthe other person\u201d identified as \u201cthe problem\u201d. In many instances a relationship will be at this stage due to infidelity, substance or alcohol abuse or some form of addiction (gambling, porn, etc.).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"m0\">You may hear the following from couples who are in Stage Three:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#f7fdfd\">\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI need to figure out the best way to end this relationship.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI have tried to work things out, but my partner hasn\u2019t.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI don\u2019t want to do this anymore.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cWe don\u2019t have anything in common.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Stage Four: Detangling<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">There is virtually no recovery for a relationship when your relationship has made it to Stage Four. Usually one or both people have emotionally checked out of the relationship. The rest of the relationship is figuring out how to keep as much distance from the other person as possible and ironing our details of the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">It is very difficult to regain trust, respect and commitment in a relationship when one or both of you have already said the words, \u201cI want out.\u201d It is never \u201ctoo late\u201d to improve a relationship. However, it won\u2019t be easy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"m0\">You may hear the following from couples who are in Stage Four:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color:#f7fdfd\">\u2022 \u201cI need a break.\u201d<br>\u2022 \u201cI can see myself with someone else.\u201d<br>\u2022 \u201cI can\u2019t trust my significant other.\u201d<br>\u2022 \u201cBeing alone is better than being in this relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Stage Five: The End<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">The relationship is over. One or both people have \u201cthrown in the towel\u201d, one or both have said there is nothing the other person can do to change their mind. It is over. You may share children and there may be remnants of the relationship (selling the house, finalizing the divorce, etc.) but all emotional ties have been severed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Rarely do relationships recover from this stage. Sadly, being in Stage Five doesn\u2019t necessarily mean the two people in the relationship physically separate and start different relationships. Some couples remain in this very unhealthy relationship \u201cfor the sake of the children\u201d or because financially they would \u201cloose too much\u201d if they went their separate ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"m0\">You may hear the following from couples who are in Stage Five:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-background wp-block-list\" style=\"background-color:#f7fdfd\">\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI can\u2019t stand the person I live with.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI can\u2019t stand the person I am when I am with the person I live with.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI enjoy the company of others more than the person I live with.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">\u201cI would rather be anywhere, with anyone else, than the person I live with.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Take Away Point<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">There are people who will be in a Stage One relationship all of their adult life. The relationship is satisfying to them, and they remain emotionally committed. For those who find themselves in Relationship Stage Two or beyond, it may be helpful to understand the dynamics involved with each stage. There are ways to salvage even the most difficult and painful relationship. However, the further along you are in the stages, the more difficult or impossible recovery will be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">What stage is your relationship in?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">With warmest regards,<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/author\/kathryn_maietta_msw\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"97\" class=\"wp-image-1389\" style=\"width: 300px;\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Kathryn-RelationshipsRelearned.com_.png?resize=300%2C97&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Kathryn-End of Post Signature\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Kathryn-RelationshipsRelearned.com_.png?w=681&amp;ssl=1 681w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/relationshipsrelearned.com\/staging\/9213\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Kathryn-RelationshipsRelearned.com_.png?resize=300%2C97&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Thank you so much for reading this blog. 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