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What Got Better Today?

Sunset over a calm lake viewed through slender trees along the shore. What got better today?
At the end of the day, what got better today?

What Got Better Today?

October 6, 2026 Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Feelings, Relationships, Resilience, Self-Esteem, Stress

What would happen if you made the decision that every night when you get into bed and lay your head on your pillow that you ask yourself one question:

What got better today?

The most important part about asking yourself “What got better?” is that it tells your brain it is safe to rest. Something in your life is certainly better today than it was yesterday.

So, go ahead, ask yourself that simple question: “What got better today?” And let it linger. Let your mind wander.

What would your answer focus on?

“What got better today?” is an optimistic question. It implies something DID get better. Or, better yet, when the pessimist asks “What got better today?”, there is an internal switch that gets flipped, at least for a few minutes. It requires the pessimist to look at the glass as maybe being half full.

Maybe the category of your answer tells you a lot about what is causing you stress.

Work

What got better today at work? Many people only think of something big, for example, a promotion. But maybe thinking about smaller successes may also reinforce a good day. Maybe today was a little better because you were able to leave work early to watch your child play soccer.

Your, “What Got Better?”, can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

School or College

What got better today at school? Maybe you received a good grade on an exam. Or, when your instructor called on you, you had the right answer!

Again, your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Relationships

What got better today in your relationship with your significant other? Maybe you were able to talk about serious matters you both had been putting off. Or, maybe it was just sitting together on the couch, holding hands while watching a movie.

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or pretty small. Find it or create it.

Finances

What got better today for your finances? Maybe today was the day you paid off a credit card! Or maybe today was the day you put the $4 you usually spend on coffee into a jar to pay for a later vacation.

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Physical Health

What got better today in terms of your physical health? Maybe today was when you had that colonoscopy or mammogram you have been avoiding and putting off for months! Or, maybe you used the stairs today instead of the elevator.

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Emotional Health

What got better today in terms of your emotional health? Maybe today you said you would no longer put up with poor boundaries in an unhealthy relationship, and you said “I want a divorce.” Or maybe you actually took your whole 60-minute lunch break and took the time to start reading a book you had been hearing great things about.

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Nutritionally

What got better today in terms of your nutrition? Maybe you drank 64 ounces of water to be hydrated. Or maybe you chose a chicken burrito instead of a beef burrito, saving you about 200 calories.

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Sleep

What got better today concerning your sleep? Were you were able to sleep for 8 hours last night? Or maybe you woke up 3 minutes before your alarm!

Your “What Got Better?” can be monumental or minuscule. Find it or create it. Think about it before falling asleep tonight.

Summary

Asking yourself a simple question before you go to sleep tonight gives you the opportunity to feel good about something. To look for the positive instead of the negative. To let your mind rest. To let your mind know that there are good things going on in your life.

With warmest regards,
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Kathryn Maietta, MSW, LCSW Licensed Clinical Social Worker / Author and Blogger
I am a licensed clinical social worker in Maine and in Texas. The focus of my practice has been working individually with adult men and women and working with couples. I received my BSW from Baylor University and my MSW from Boston University. Since 2020 I have published a series of self-help books and written a bi-weekly mental health blog.
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